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This is a very unexplored area in parenting in a lot of cases, and since it is a cultural moment in the news and media lately, we wanted to touch on this topic in the last two episodes. Where can we seek more consent with our children? This is part two of a two-part episode on consent.

What are the gray areas of consent? We ran out of time to touch on this one in the last episode, so we finish the discussion in this episode.

Before we get started, we’d like to invite you to join us on Facebook! We have both a Facebook Page (https://www.facebook.com/onefreefamily/) where you can stay informed of our new episodes and blog posts, and a Facebook Group (https://www.facebook.com/groups/onefreefamily/) where you can join in on the discussion with us, whether you are already on the journey to applying peaceful parenting, or if you are skeptical and want to know more.

Forced obligations are usually not meaningful. Authentic engagements are usually much more meaningful. Should we expect more from our children than we expect from our friends? One way to handle engagements is to work to find common shared interests to bring about those authentic engagements.

This does not only involve interactions with parents. It is also important when your kids get together with other kids. Should you require your kids to engage with other kids or give them space to do as they wish?

Planting seeds can give you a good running start to reach that authenticity.

What happens if everyone in your family except one consents to go somewhere such as the library, or, say to Mexico on vacation? How do we handle that?

Sometimes it may be impossible to find space for consent, such as when your child could be physically endangering themselves or you are just not comfortable with the risk they may be taking. Another area where this is a challenge is when it is medical or health-related, such a vaccines, brushing teeth, or any number of other areas. It can be very helpful to have conversations and work to validate concerns and feelings in these areas with your child.

One way kids may challenge their autonomy is when they infringe on the rights or autonomy of others. To us, there is no space for anyone in our family to infringe on the bodily autonomy of others.

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Rodger is a long-time libertarian activist, the founder of PaxLibertas Productions, host of The LAVA Flow podcast, Vice Chairman of the NHLP, Regional Captain for the Foundation for New Hampshire Independence and former Chairman and Secretary of the Libertarian Party of Arkansas. Rodger has also served on the national Libertarian Party Judicial Committee.

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  • Many of the folks who aren’t familiar with peaceful parenting would probably like to see real world examples, and parents who have already adopted the ideas would probably love to hear other parents’ ideas and methods for dealing with specific situations.   Let’s add some discussion of practice to the great discussions surrounding theory that are already ongoing.   I think it would be really constructive for a discussion to start like this: My kid is doing X. Do you guys have ideas or solutions for dealing with it?   I’ll get as much use out of this type of conversation as anyone, since my son is 2.5 and my daughter is seven weeks. So I’d love to see some posts!

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  • I currently have a 3 and 1 year old. I have been at ends searching for liberty minded books to read to them. Does anyone have any suggestions. I also teach school ages so please feel free to throw in books for older children.

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  • I recently read Hoppe’s Democracy: The God That Failed and it brings up a number of questions. I sent him an email with these questions and am still waiting for a reply. But I thought I’d put them out there in this group as well. There are five series of questions and this is the first batch. Is a covenant community binding for all time? Or can a member of a covenant society secede from it just as he ought to be able to secede from the state? Can the terms of the covenant be changed in the future and if so how? Can the covenant specify that all rules and restrictions covered in the covenant can be changed through democratic means – in other words through voting? And if so, can they do specify that this be done by simple majority rule or other ways as specified in the covenant? Further to this – am I correct in assuming that the terms of the covenant inhere to the property and not the person?  For example, I own property in a strata development which is covered by such a covenant. It binds me to the bylaws of the Strata Corporation and these rules can be changed by the members democratically at a meeting. The strata council enforces the rules, manages the budget, etc. I also pay strata fees which are analagous to taxes if this were a municipality. (The strata fees are actually more than the municipal taxes I pay, though the city provides a lot more services.)  And these rules inhere in the property, so if I sell it, the buyer is bound by the covenant. But I cannot secede from the covenant. In effect, a covenant community is really a mini-government, but organized as a contract rather than as a political entity. But in practice, is there really any difference? I have written on my blog about this a few times. Most notably here: http://jollylibertarian.blogspot.ca/2015/10/private-government.html and here: http://jollylibertarian.blogspot.ca/2015/10/consent-of-governed.html and here: https://jollylibertarian.liberty.me/is-consent-a-sufficient-condition-for-a-society-to-be-considered-libertarian/  The latter contradicts the first two as I have had some change in thought on this. Feedback appreciated.

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  • I will admit it outright: I am a terrible orator. Now, talking in public is usually much better than it used to be. But when it comes to conversations about politcs and economics, I’m at loss to remain Friedman-calm when facing outrageously false statements. If it were done over writing I could easily kick their butts thanks to the many articles I wrote and tons of books I read (and stats that actually show my point). But when talking my heart starts racing, I feel like I’m hyperventilating and I sink to their level of emotions.   Are there any tricks to keep the cool even when faced by a barrage of nonsense?

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  • I just watched this video (Adam Kokesh) last night. Blew my mind. Just an amazing example that with the right argument, the right perspective, you can open someone’s mind to a different way of thinking. That isn’t to say the same argument is going to work for everyone nor will you necessarily have the right perspective (no way I could have used that argument for that dude), but if we keep trying, keep putting our arguments and perspectives out there, the likelihood of a spark will go up. AND, keep sharing your perspective, your point of view, your reason for liberty because you might be the only one who can connect to someone and be their spark.

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