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It’s something no parent really anticipates when they start adding more children to their family, but it happens way more frequently than most people like to acknowledge. Gaining a sibling can bring our kids a lot of joy, but it also brings out a number of complicated emotions that they might not be quite ready to process. Why is mommy spending so much time with this new kid when she used to spend more time with me? Why is that baby crying when we are in the middle of a game? And a number of other feelings that a kid could never even hope to name.

And, sometimes, these big feelings turn into impulsive behavior that can even be violent. As a parent, it rattles us to the core of our being – who would want to hit such a sweet little child? While this sort of behavior almost never lasts forever, that doesn’t stop it from being incredibly upsetting in the moment. In this episode, James and Taylor talk about strategies for trying to deal with these situations as peacefully and effectively as possible, as well as strategies to help build more connection between our young children so that they can see their relationship in a more positive light.

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Rodger is a long-time libertarian activist, the founder of PaxLibertas Productions, host of The LAVA Flow podcast, Vice Chairman of the NHLP, Regional Captain for the Foundation for New Hampshire Independence and former Chairman and Secretary of the Libertarian Party of Arkansas. Rodger has also served on the national Libertarian Party Judicial Committee.

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  • The premise sounds odd, but I have been thinking about it after hearing some pretty horrifying statistics about marriage/divorce/custody, etc. Example: The mother gets full custody 90% of the time, something like 1/3 of fathers listed on birth certificates are not the real father (cheating), men lose majority of wealth in divorce, men are obligated to pay alimony for the rest of ex-wives life after a decade of marriage, despite lack of custody/visitation prison time is likely if you don’t pay child support, etc. So, barring finding someone amazing before I’m around 40, I am considering artificially inseminating a surrogate mother with a donor egg to have children. This will effectively make me a single father with no mother ever being in the picture, but from what I’ve read this seems preferable – especially considering the damage to children during divorce. I have considered what my children would think of this circumstance, tried my hardest to put myself in their hypothetical shoes and found myself figuring “well, I’d rather be alive with no mother, than not alive at all.” This is not ideal, obviously – but it seems a fantasy to expect to have children with someone who will be consistent in my and my children’s lives. Am I crazy? Probably.

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  • I had a serious epiphany driving home from work today. I had realized, I don’t have to feel guilty or afraid anymore because of what society or the government would label me as.   I just drove home and felt…pureness. Innocence for ONCE in my life. And it all came from the feeling of Freedom. Having Freedom, and recognizing it in others. Even before a court of “law.” They have no right to take my Freedom away, and in thinking this I realized, that I was already, and always will be, Free.   When I parked at my plot I saw two young girls and a boy, and one of the girls had a puppy and the puppy was SO HAPPY! Full of joyful curiosity for adventure, and then I realized Freedom was in that puppy. And I thought…that is Freedom.   As the boy and girl with the puppy walked ahead, I saw the other girl turn back and walk towards a rose bush, she picked a rose from the bush, and then I had witnessed… that is Freedom.   No one has ANY right, to take that away from anyone. NO ONE. Neither YOU nor me, God or the Devil himself… NO ONE! (Not that I’m religious mind you, no offense.)   Freedom is more than just speaking freely and choosing freely.  It is being able to be like that puppy, or like that girl that had the ability of CONSCIENCE to pick that flower out of her own Free Will.   In these moments I had the epiphany of TRULY respecting EVERYONES Freedom and understood what Freedom was all about.   Maybe I’m just a sentimental bastard, or maybe I’m just an emotional.   But I do know, that this feeling of Freedom is too beautiful for ANYONE to take it away from anyone else.   I personally feel that we can rehabilitate thousands of people in the penal system, if we simply explained to them the concept of Freedom: that it brings happiness and joy and compassion to others, and without Freedom, there will be none of those things. They will not exist. Freedom is pain, Freedom is suffering, but its also joy, life, happiness and compassion!   Have any of you had moments like this? Where time just slows down and catches up with your thoughts? And then BOOM! It clicks. It makes sense, you have an epiphany of the human soul. Hopefully there is someone out there that has had it.

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  • I had a serious epiphany driving home from work today. I had realized, I don’t have to feel guilty or afraid anymore because of what society or the government would label me as. I just drove home and felt…pureness. Innocence for ONCE in my life. And it all came from the feeling of Freedom. Having Freedom, and recognizing it in others. Even before a court of “law.” They have no right to take my Freedom away, and in thinking this I realized, that I was already, and always will be, Free. When I parked at my plot I saw two young girls and a boy, and one of the girls had a puppy and the puppy was SO HAPPY! Full of joyful curiosity for adventure, and then I realized Freedom was in that puppy. And I thought…that is Freedom. As the boy and girl with the puppy walked ahead, I saw the other girl turn back and walk towards a rose bush, she picked a rose from the bush, and then I had witnessed… that is Freedom. No one has ANY right, to take that away from anyone. NO ONE. Neither YOU nor me, God or the Devil himself… NO ONE! (Not that I’m religious mind you, no offense.) Freedom is more than just speaking freely and choosing freely.  It is being able to be like that puppy, or like that girl that had the ability of CONSCIENCE to pick that flower out of her own Free Will. In these moments I had the epiphany of TRULY respecting EVERYONES Freedom and understood what Freedom was all about. Maybe I’m just a sentimental bastard, or maybe I’m just an emotional. But I do know, that this feeling of Freedom is too beautiful for ANYONE to take it away from anyone else. I personally feel that we can rehabilitate thousands of people in the penal system, if we simply explained to them the concept of Freedom: that it brings happiness and joy and compassion to others, and without Freedom, there will be none of those things. They will not exist. Freedom is pain, Freedom is suffering, but its also joy, life, happiness and compassion! Have any of you had moments like this? Where time just slows down and catches up with your thoughts? And then BOOM! It clicks. It makes sense, you have an epiphany of the human soul. Hopefully there is someone out there that has had it.

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  • Is love a scarce resource? Someone said ‘love should be free’ and my instinct was to contradict.

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  • I’m producing an off-Broadway musical on how government corrupts the financial system and how looking to the government for solutions fails. I predict that Liberty.me members will like it. Some stories on it: http://blogs.villagevoice.com/music/2014/07/a_completely_surreal_icelandic_musical_has_the_best_soundtrack_of_the_year.php http://www.nytimes.com/2014/08/10/theater/a-cautionary-musical-about-2008-takes-creative-leaps.html Here is our page: http://www.revolutionelbow.com

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