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An experience of ungraciousness and misandry

Tags: heterophobia misandry ostracism sexism

Zeroth Position March 11, 2015 at 10:21 pm

There is an ice cream shop that I used to visit frequently, up until yesterday. I thought that I was a respected customer whose business and generosity was appreciated. I was wrong.
From time to time (no more than once a month), I would bring in a sample of something I had made or something unusual that I had acquired. A handful of home-grown berries here, a small piece of cake there, etc. This was done primarily to get second opinions on creations of mine or to get rid of small amounts of things for which I had no use. At no point did anything I gave them exceed what a reasonable person would value at $2, and I never made any sort of romantic or sexual advance. Until yesterday, no one ever informed me that there was anything inappropriate about this.
So imagine my surprise when the police come when I am there and one of the employees tells me in their presence that I am no longer welcome on the premises because my gifts have made one of the employees uncomfortable. (The employees are all young girls; to my knowledge all are 18-20 years of age. I am 28 years of age, if that matters to anyone.)
As a libertarian, I will respect their private property rights and freedom of association. As such, I will never go there again or initiate the use of force against them. But I do not intend to take their ungraciousness lying down. I also consider this an instance of misandry and heterophobia, as I highly doubt that a woman or a gay man who behaved identically would have been treated this way. So what to do?
Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to visit the Facebook and Google pages of this place and give them a 1-star review. You do not need to write anything in order to do this, and I ask that no slander or libel occur. Just help to pile on a multitude of 1-star reviews and sink their online reputation to the depths where it belongs. Let us show them how free markets deal with businesses that are mean to friendly, generous people.
https://www.facebook.com/MorgansDairyBar

https://plus.google.com/116174669041702142416/about?gl=us&hl=en
In the 36 hours since this happened, I have reflected that maybe cases like this partly explain why so many men are mean to women. Men try being nice, and simple politeness and generosity gets misinterpreted as some kind of harassment.

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Sarah Meyer March 12, 2015 at 12:04 am

PRIME example of the negative effects of the feminists war-cry against “rape culture” on not only men, but women too. They’ve been taught their whole lives to fear you. How sad.

When I was a bank teller… from age 18-21 I had a regular who proposed marriage to me every time he came in. 🙂 He made BBQ sauce. I saw him selling his sauce at a tradeshow once, so I bought like 5 bottles.

Life is so much better when you interact and appreciate BOTH genders!

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Robert S. March 12, 2015 at 2:35 am

Well…I started a reply and my brilliance disappeared because I put my tablet down for too long. Ugh. I think it went something like this. I have been on L.me just a short time, and I have read quite a few things Matthew has written. Without meeting him, I have found him to be kind, intelligent but approachable, wise and other positive qualities. I don’t sense a weird agenda from him. Just a guy who loves liberty and wants others to be free also. He’s a relatively handsome man (from a guy’s viewpoint).

In a society where acts of kindness and generosity are rare, and many have ulterior motives, it would be easy to assume that a simple act of kindness and generosity had an agenda behind it. Personally, if someone like Matthew were doing those little things for me…I would be deeply touched…regardless of the motive. If I was unsure of his motives, felt uncomfortable at all and I saw him on a regular basis guess what I would do? I would *talk to him!!*

The art of communication is one that is seldom practiced in our society and gives more power to the state. It helps give them a reason to exist (if that makes sense).

It would be easy to go on a long drawn out rant here…but I won’t. As for a campaign against this place…hmmm. I wonder who it will really hurt? I think never going back and telling my friends about the experience might be enough. But I don’t know. I think in would just move on from it though. It was a humiliating and painful experience for sure but, as they say, “with friends like these, who needs enemies?” Someone losing their job, or a business closing doesn’t necessarily further the cause of liberty. I am not sure what I would do in the same circumstances.

It’s a shame we have to be having this discussion at all.

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  Zeroth Position March 12, 2015 at 11:28 pm
  
  The turnover of businesses in the area is somewhat high. My hope is that it would close and be replaced by a business populated by more understanding people. I don’t much care if this one business owner and three employees have to find something else to do.
  
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Chester M March 13, 2015 at 12:08 am

The saddest part of this to me is how people automatically assume that someone being nice must have an ulterior motive.

My local supermarket employs many teenage cashiers, as well as baggers with special needs. I’m usually chatty with all of them regardless of gender, but stories like this make me rethink my friendliness.

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James Smith March 13, 2015 at 12:24 am

I don’t understand how your actions could be deemed threatening in any way. If you’re an old lady it’s sweet and sociable, but if you’re a 28 year old man it’s aggressive??

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  Zeroth Position March 13, 2015 at 8:42 am
  
  Exactly my point.
  
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Michael Bunch March 13, 2015 at 12:17 pm

Mission accepted.

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